Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer (LGBTQ) Teens
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“Lesbian” means you are a female who is attracted to other females.
“Gay” means you are attracted to people of the same gender.
“Bisexual” means you are attracted to people of more than one gender.
“Straight” means you are attracted to people of the opposite gender.
Here is what we know about people in the United States:
Women: About 6 in 100 identify as bisexual, and about 2 in 100 identify as lesbian.
Men: About 2 in 100 identify as bisexual or gay.
Many people feel that they are not 100 percent gay, straight, or bisexual. Some people may not identify with any of these labels, and that is OK too. It also is possible to not feel any sexual attraction. This sometimes is described as being asexual.
Gender identity is your sense of being male, female, or somewhere in between. This identity may or may not be the same as the sex you were assigned at birth. Gender identity (who you are) is not the same thing as sexual orientation (who you are attracted to).
Most people are told they are a boy or a girl (male or female) based on the genitals they were born with. This is the sex you are assigned at birth. If someone is transgender, that male or female label does not match their gender identity.
Some people may feel that they belong to neither gender or to both genders. People who feel this way sometimes identify as “gender nonbinary,” “gender fluid,” or “genderqueer.” Some other terms may include androgynous, agender, gender neutral, and gender nonconforming.
The ways people express their gender can vary. Just like everyone else, transgender people can express their gender through their choice of clothing and style of hair or makeup. Some may choose a name and pronouns that reflect their gender identity. They may openly use their chosen name and ask others to respect their pronouns (he, she, they, etc.).
Some choose to take hormones or have surgeries so that their bodies more closely match their gender identity. Others do not. There is no “right” way to be a transgender person.
Cisgender means that your gender identity matches the sex you were assigned at birth.
Queer is sometimes used to describe a fluid gender identity. In the past, this was a negative term for people who are gay. Now, queer is used by some people to describe themselves, their community, or both in a positive way.
Questioning means you are exploring your sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression.
It’s not known for certain what determines a person’s sexual orientation. Who a person has sex with doesn’t necessarily determine their sexual orientation. Many adults and teens have never had sex with a person of the same sex but still identify as gay.
Some teens may question their gender identity for the first time during puberty. But most people have a steady sense of their gender starting very early in life, by about age 4. Many people have felt the same way about their gender identity since they were little or for as long as they can remember.
If you are confused about your gender identity, find support by talking with someone you trust, such as your doctor.
Many communities accept LGBTQ people without bias. But some communities do not. For adults and teens, hate crimes, job discrimination, and housing discrimination can be serious problems. For teens, bullying in school also can be a problem. If you are being bullied at school, talk with your parents or another trusted adult, a teacher, or your principal.
Teens who do not feel supported by adults are more likely to be depressed. Some LGBTQ teens cope with these thoughts and feelings in harmful ways. They may try to hurt themselves. They may turn to drugs and alcohol. Some skip school or drop out. Some run away from home. Lesbian or bisexual girls may be more likely to smoke or have eating disorders.
If you need help, try to find support by talking with someone you trust, such as your doctor. There also are websites and hotlines where you can be anonymous (see Resources).
Some parents are open and accepting. Others may not understand what it means to be lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, or queer. Some parents may believe stereotypes about LGBTQ people. Telling your parents can be a big decision. Help and support are out there if you need it. See Resources for help educating parents, family members, and friends about the LGBTQ community.
If you don’t want to talk with your parents, you can talk with a teacher, counselor, doctor, or other health care practitioner. It’s a good idea to ask about what can be kept private before you talk to a professional. There also are websites and hotlines where you can be anonymous if you need information (see Resources).
Girls who have sex with girls can get STIs. Many STIs can be passed from one partner to another through oral sex. These STIs include
Some STIs (HPV and genital herpes) can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact. HPV also may be spread by contact between genitals and fingers.
If you have female sex organs and have sex with someone with male sex organs, you can get pregnant. All teens who are sexually active and want to prevent pregnancy need to use birth control. See Birth Control for a list of options.
Condoms give the best protection against STIs, but they are not the best protection against pregnancy. It is best to use condoms and another method of birth control, such as an intrauterine device (IUD), birth control pills, or a birth control implant, to protect against pregnancy and STIs.
All teen girls should have their first visit with an obstetrician–gynecologist (ob-gyn) between ages 13 and 15, even if they aren't sexually active. After the first visit, routine visits are recommended. See the infographic 21 Reasons to See a Gynecologist Before You Turn 21 to learn how an ob-gyn can help you.
Transgender teens who have female sex organs or who are taking feminizing hormones also need female reproductive health care. See Health Care for Transgender Teens for more information.
The first visit may be just a talk between you and your doctor. You can find out what to expect at future visits and get information about how to stay healthy. You also may have a general physical exam. You usually do not need to have a pelvic exam at the first visit unless you are having problems.
Your doctor may ask a lot of questions about you and your family. Some of them may seem personal, such as questions about your menstrual period or sexual activities (including vaginal, oral, or anal sex). If you talk honestly and openly, your doctor can help get you the resources you need stay healthy and safe.
You also may get the following tests and immunizations:
HPV vaccine—HPV can be passed from person to person during sex. HPV infection increases the risk of cervical cancer and genital warts. Girls and boys should get the HPV vaccine. This is a series of shots to protect against the most common types of HPV that cause cancer, precancer, and genital warts. The best age for the HPV vaccine is 11 or 12 , but you can get the vaccine starting at age 9.
STI screening tests—If you are sexually active, you may have tests for certain STIs. Most STI tests can be done with a urine sample or a swab of your genital area or mouth.
Cervical cancer screening—All women should have screening for cervical cancer starting at age 21. See Cervical Cancer Screening for details.
See Your First Gynecologic Visit for more information.
Safe sex means:
Using condoms, dental dams, or gloves when touching another person’s genitals with your genitals, fingers, mouth, or a sex toy. (See Birth Control.)
Avoiding getting menstrual blood or semen into cuts or sores.
Using a male condom to cover sex toys before use. Clean sex toys before and after use.
Talking about safe sex before having sexual contact with a partner.
Not mixing sex with the use of drugs or alcohol.
The only definite way to prevent STIs is to not have oral, anal, or vaginal sex. If you are sexually active, you should practice safe sex to help protect yourself and your partner against STIs. You should practice safe sex whether your partner is male or female.
If you think you may have an STI or have had sexual contact that may have put you at risk, you should be tested for STIs. Even if you do not think you are at risk, your doctor may recommend testing for gonorrhea and chlamydia if you are sexually active.
See Healthy Relationships for more information on staying healthy and safe with sexual partners.
Barrier Method: Birth control that stops sperm from entering the uterus, such as condoms.
Birth Control: Devices or medications used to prevent pregnancy.
Bisexual: Being attracted to people of more than one gender.
Cervical Cancer: A type of cancer that is in the cervix, the opening to the uterus at the top of the vagina.
Chlamydia: A sexually transmitted infection caused by bacteria. This infection can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease and infertility.
Cisgender: A term for someone who identifies as the sex that he or she was assigned at birth.
Gender Identity: A person’s sense of being male, female, or somewhere in between. This identity may or may not correspond to the sex assigned at birth.
Genital Herpes: A sexually transmitted infection (STI) caused by a virus. Herpes causes painful, highly infectious sores on or around the vulva and penis.
Gonorrhea: A sexually transmitted infection that may lead to pelvic inflammatory disease, infertility, and arthritis.
Hormones: Substances made in the body that control the function of cells or organs.
Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV): A virus that attacks certain cells of the body’s immune system. If left untreated, HIV can cause acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS).
Human Papillomavirus (HPV): The name for a group of related viruses, some of which cause genital warts and some of which are linked to cancer of the cervix, vulva, vagina, penis, anus, mouth, and throat.
Lesbian: A woman who is attracted to other women.
Menstrual Period: The monthly shedding of blood and tissue from the uterus.
Obstetrician–Gynecologist (Ob-Gyn): A doctor with special training and education in women’s health.
Pelvic Exam: A physical examination of a woman’s reproductive organs.
Puberty: The stage of life when the reproductive organs start to function and other sex features develop. For women, this is the time when menstrual periods start and the breasts develop.
Queer: A term sometimes used to describe a fluid gender identity. In the past, this was a negative term for people who are gay. But now, queer is used by some people to describe themselves, their community, or both in a positive way. Typically used when self-identifying or quoting someone who self-identifies as queer.
Questioning: A term used to describe people who are exploring their sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression.
Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs): Infections that are spread by sexual contact.
Sexual Orientation: Emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction to other people. Examples include heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual.
Syphilis: A sexually transmitted infection (STI) that is caused by an organism called Treponema pallidum. This infection may cause major health problems or death in its later stages.
Transgender: A person whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.
Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network (GLSEN)
Organization that supports safe and inclusive schools for LGBTQ students. Local chapters offer trainings, community outreach, and more.
Organization that supports gender expansive children, teens, and their families.
It Gets Better Project
Videos of LGBTQ people and allies sharing their personal stories.
Information on sexual health for teens and young adults from the American Sexual Health Association.
The Trevor Project
Crisis intervention, suicide prevention, and resources related to sexual orientation and gender identity.
Toll-free: 1-866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386)
Hours: 7 days a week, 24 hours a day
Confidential suicide and crisis counseling for LGBTQ teens and young adults. Text and chat options are available on the website.
LGBT National Youth Talkline
Hours: Monday–Friday 1 pm–9 pm PST / 4 pm–12 am EST, Saturday 9 am–2 pm PST / 12 pm–5 pm EST
Peer support and resources for LGBTQ teens and young adults.
National Runaway Safeline
Toll-free 1-800-RUNAWAY (800-786-2929)
Hours: 7 days a week, 24 hours a day
Hotline for runaway or homeless youth and their families. A live chat option is available on the website.
Hours: 7 am–2 am PST / 9 am–4 am CST / 10 am–5 am EST.
Peer support hotline run by and for trans people.
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Last updated: February 2021
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